Melinda wrote:I think Brad said in one of his posts that they had had many issues in their marriage that were problematic, not just this one, and had had much counciling. It didn't sound to me that it was just a food issue.
Dead on. I was surprized to find the large number of posts just now. The lack of support for my diet I believe is symptomatic of other issues. To leave or not leave because of a difference in WOE can be a discussion, but it is not pertinent to me. I made the decision to stay years ago for the children and it was the "right thing" do to. I'm questioning this now though as the last of the children are leaving, but again the lack of support and encouragement, not just in cooking, is just one issue.
There was a comment about doing the cooking and I do 95% of my own cooking now as well as roughly 50% of the other cooking (and cleaning). I did about 40% prior to the change. My grilled salmon, sour cream enchiladas, steaks, chicken divan, and baked goods were legendary. I still make them for the kids when they visit or when friends/guests request. Just made my vegan chili for a staff meeting and it vanished by the bowlful...oops...I neglected to mention it was vegan....
I think the 5 major areas of conflict in marriage are money, relatives, power, sex, children. Interstingly, food is one of the 5 areas in multicultural marriages. I think we'd all agree a spouse should leave a physically abusive relationship, but what about emotionally abusive. How far down the scale of 1 to 10 would it have go be for you to leave?
I remember in premarriage class a woman saying our marriage wouldn't work because my wife was catholic and I wasn't. I actually became catholic. Now the whole guilt thing gets thrown in!