Neal Barnard, MD, is one of our heroes. In some of his talks, he discusses how his mother eventually adopted a vegan diet for medical reasons. He said that both of his parents are now vegans, but only one of them knows it.
If you have to, you could supplement your meals for hubby with some of the fake meat and dairy products which are not optimal or even recommended, but available and better than SAD. This might help you.
My own wife adopted this lifestyle enthusiastically when it became obvious that I needed to do this. You might discuss the issue with your spouse and be surprised. Many guys only care that there is tasty food on the table, and have no special craving for meat or dairy or oil.
Although I have benefited greatly, so has my wife. Although she never quite reached 200 pounds, she was always struggling with her weight and counting her weight watcher points. Now she is very trim and weighs in the low 130's (at 5'11") by eating all she wants, and has solved some health issues that were troubling her too, especially leg cramps at night. Here is a recent picture of her I took and posted here as an example of her turnaround.
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=1 ... 1475468791She also dug up an old photo that shows where she was some years ago and gave me permission to link to it also. I'll have to dig that up - it's somewhere. But anyhow, if you can view the facebook picture, you will see that she is very trim and looks healthy. Like me, she would not go back to our old ways of eating even if we knew that it wouldn't make a difference in our health or feelings of happiness that we have from this lifestyle.
BTW, I strongly recommend the menus in Caldwell Esselstyn's book Prevent and Reverse Heart Disease. The cookbook section is by far our favorite. Everything is delicious, even to guests, and the recipes always work and are mostly simple. The Chile recipe is a staple for us, and guys seem to really like it.
Who knows, if you bought the book and left it out, he might even read the book itself.